teenbride

You may be wondering what in the world someone who was married when they were nineteen knows about relationships and how anything that they have to say can help you.

I met my husband in  highschool and we have been together for 10 years.  We’ve experienced the entire coming of age process together.  We started dating with curfews and worrying about who’s mom was going to drop us off at the movies.  We were the kids parked in the woods with the windows fogged up.  We went to prom together, twice.  We lasted through his graduation, enrollment in the millitary, leaving our home for one year (while I was still in highschool), fighting in a war, coming home to bring me to prom, and being stationed 300 miles from our hometown and 350 miles from the college I was attending.  We survived “seeing other people” when he was gone because neither of us could stand to be with someone else.  We survived maintaining a long distance relationship for almost 3 years because neither of us could stand one day without hearing the other’s voice.  We survived me working fulltime and going to school during the day while he worked at night, and being so broke we had to choose between buying groceries and paying the rent.  We lived through every obstacle that came our way, and we did it together.

I may have started young, but I learned how to keep a relationship going through anything.  We learned how to make time for each other and keep our relationship growing while we were still figuring out where we stood in this world because we couldn’t imagine coming out on the other side alone.  We learned that in order to stay together we had to grow together.  We learned communication skills that many people never have by trial and error because we had to.  We were in love.  We knew we were meant to be together, whatever it took.

This blog is about how we stayed together through everything, including the transition from adolescents to adults.  I intend to offer tips on learning what it takes to maintain a relationship in youth, and keeping it alive and growing more with every year that passes.

I would like to say that I am still fairly young and would never try to say I know how to keep a 20 or 30 year marriage going.  However, I do know a few people who have not only managed to stay together for 20 years, but for almost 40,  my parents. My parents met on the highschool bus.  They were married days after my father’s graduation from highschool and they have managed to keep the flame buring to this day, 35 years later.  My grandparents were married for 50 years, my husband’s parents for 30, and his grandparents for another 50.  Seeing a pattern?  I intend to draw on what these happy couples have learned over time and use it in this blog to help the working women out there trying to keep a successfull career, raise a family, keep up on the house and the bills and everything else and still maintain a happy marriage.   

When we decided to keep a steady relationship, decided to get engaged or vowed to live and love together until we died we meant it.  Whatever age we are or whatever stage of life we are in there is no reason why we can’t be happy with the ones we love.  I hope that the things I have to offer here help my readers to do just that. 

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